Author: Meg Jay
Published: Apr 2012
I bought this book when I was 20. At that time, I fell that this is a good read, however, not really beneficial for me, as I believed I was more disciplined than the people mentioned as examples in the book.
5 years later, when this book is still popular (which means many find it useful) and when I realized my thoughts have changed much in this half a decade, I decided to re-read it to see if there is anything good that I can consume. The experience this time is different. Despise my scrutiny style of work (that often makes me indecisive, I admit), I still almost miss some milestones-of-life that are mentioned in this book.
I would recommend reading The Defining Decade if any of the below applies to you:
The book is structured around 3 parts: work, love, the brain and the body.
In the modern world, many young people tend to postpone their stages of life, including their work and marriage, to enjoy their 20s. This, in Meg Jay’s point of view, creates a detrimental effect on their incoming ages. She disagrees with the statement “30s is the new 20s” which indicates that in this generation, humans are allowed to start everything that humans in the old generation started in their 20s, in the 30s. Those include getting married, giving birth to children, finding a job and planning for the future. She argues that youngsters should stop thoughtlessly enjoying their lives in their 20s, as the 20s play a very big role in one’s duration (80% of important events occur before the age of 35).
The problems of young people that are listed in this chapter are:
The brain and the body
My final thoughts
I like the way Meg Jay tells the story with examples from her own experience as a clinical psychologist. This book seems to be most suitable for the female US or European youngsters, however, although being an Asian boy, I still see myself being attracted to.